"10 failsafe ways to get your man"...

I love the msn home page, it always articles I'm interested in. Today, it's an article on dating & personal. Keeping with the dating theme I was on in the last blog, I've came up with this mess! As the title suggests, it's tips and pointers to keeping the guy you like interested...

1. Make an effort.


2. Play it cool-ish.


3. Let him keep his friends.


4. Look fabulous.


5. Let his mates fancy you.


6. Schmooze his mother.


7. Be nice to his kids.


8. Don't share his interests.


9. Don't move in through the back door.


10. Be honest.

This doesn't make much sense without the rest of the infromation it gives after each point, so to see the rest of the article... http://dating.uk.msn.com/matchscene/article.aspx?articleid=10235&TrackingID=523984&BannerID=568010&GT1=60750&ocid=today There's a big nasty link for you!

Number one is all about going out of your way for him... Now, if you're not with the guy yet, will it not look a bit needy and a bit weird if you start making meals for him or buying him things? I know if I came home to a man in my house and a dinner for two I'd be a bit freaked out. I'd also be mega happy that Someone's cokked for me! But I'd be a little creeped out he was in my house. The needy look isn't one I find attractive.

Playing it coolish, something I do very well! But as the article says, if you play it too cool the 'man' starts to think you're not interested. I've never been one for openly showing affection towards anyone as anyone that knows me will tell you. I know you're not to be too affectionate because "Men have in-built ‘back-off-she’s-after-a-husband’ antennae" and after a while of being around a man I start to plan out our whole life in my head... but don't tell them that, it scares them away.

"Let him keep his friends" is the same as keeping it cool in my opinion, it goes on about giving him space. I can do that. Not every woman can, I understand that. It's all well and good when he's with the boys but then you start hearing about when he was out with *insert sluts name here* and it becomes a problem. One day I'll become one of those awesome girlfriends that doesn't mind you coming home at 4 in the morning and having to look after you while you vomit everywhere... but right nowthat's not me. I don't want a guy to put me before his friends, God no, but I'd like to see him save some time for me.
It also mentions "This demonstrates that you have confidence, an attractive quality in a girl."... I have that, by the way!

Look fabulous? 'Lipgloss rules'. I tend to try doing that, going out of my way when I know theres a special boy going to be there on a saturday, I can't help it. But it gets me down! Having to get properly ready and looking good just for him. He'll be really let down when he realises that underneath all those face products I actually look like a druggie in rehab.

I think when they say 'Let his mates fancy you' they don't mean it in the sense that I, as a 17 year old, would take it. People fancying people at my age is something we take very seriously. Generally, having his mates thing you're a bit fit is for the best, atleast that way they wont slag him off for liking you.

Meeting mothers is something I just don't do, sorry! I'll leave that for when I'm older yes. The same goes with 'Be nice to his kids"... if he has kids I should be staying the hell away from him! Mothers and kids are for people over the age of 20. Oh God, that's only three years away! All the same, mother and kids are a no-go zone for Heather Cameron.

"Don't share his interests" is something I can whole heartily agree with. It is trying too hard, or atleast it comes off that way. Someone that's constantly agreeing with you can become repetative. It always gives me the impression that who ever it is has no real personality and is a bit dull. It's nice having someone that shares the same views as you, but it's better being able to have a good debate about it!

Number 9 is something I'm too young to know about... although I do have a tendancy to try and steal their clothes...

Finally, number 10 goes on about leaving him if he isn't right for you. Obviously, I can't disagree with this! All I know is that when I'm with someone that doesn't interest me anymore, I become unhappy. I remember Alan said to me that I need to put myself before anyone else and think about my happiness... within the next 5 minutes of saying that I dumped him. I became unhappy with him and he made me realise that shouldn't be with him just to keep him happy. I wasn't keeping him happy anyway, he knew there was something wrong and me being unhappy made him worry and therefor made him unhappy too. I was 'taking one for the team' in dumping him.

The overall conclusion is that this article has its highs and lows... but everyone's different when it comes to relationships. All I know is that we all have one thing in common, we're not the best at them.